Saying "YES" Isn't Always Best

James 5:12 (ESV)

  "But above all, my brothers, do not swear, either by heaven or by earth or by any other oath, but let your “yes” be yes and your “no” be no, so that you may not fall under condemnation.”
Sometimes we say “YES” way too soon without considering the cost of what this could mean in our already super busy and full plated life. We may “feel” one way one day and say “YES” and then “feel” another when we sit and think about it and then panic because we do not think we can do it. Now, we are in a position and feel we are failing those we have committed with.
If you are a people-pleaser like my old self know this, it is way better to take some time to saying a bold “yes” or a bold “no”. Take some time to yourself and weigh out your options. Will this serve my life or my family’s life well? Will this complicate anything at home or in my marriage? Am I putting too much on my plate I will not do great at any of this? Is this a positive in my life, or a negative? Would God be happy with this decision? Seeking God in your decisions in life is especially important, if you feel uneasy when you’re saying yes to avoid someone from not accepting you or getting upset with you; you need to ask yourself if this person is right for you and your life?
My friend to live a life full of abundance being true to oneself and following God’s lead is especially important. In these situations, I encourage you to take time to think it through. Do not be quick to say “YES” and be “OK” if that other person is disappointed. Hear them but honor your boundaries in your life.  I like to call it do it in Love. And sometimes with those who will not accept your answer you may have to love them from a distance. In other words, are not a part of their daily lives, but still honor, love, and pray for them. If that person is for you, they will not try to manipulate you or make you feel worse about your decision. Those that genuinely love you, appreciate you and respect you might be disappointed, but they will get over it and continue to love you. If you feel the desire is there to do it after thinking and praying it through, then do so. Keeping life simple you need to be true to yourself and be okay setting healthy boundaries. Remember God wants you to live your life to the fullest! That means having time for God, family, and yourself. When your busy doing everything for everyone else you do not have energy for your own life.